Where To Meet Girls: A Guide For The Single Man

It's not easy being single. Sure, it has its pros, but let's be honest, a woman's touch is indispensable in a man's life. You can say that living as single is the best thing that's ever happened to you, but deep down, you know you're deluding yourself.

In fact, men who talk like that remind me of Michael Scott from "The Office" who once said:

"Bros before hoes. Why? Because your bros are always there for you. They have got your back after your ho rips your heart out for no good reason. And you are nothing but great to your ho, and you told her that she was the only ho for you and that she was better than all the other hos in the world. And then... Then suddenly she's not your ho no mo'!"

It really hits you in the guts, doesn't it? But you know what's even worse? The fact that the dating world has become extremely cruel over the past few years. Apps like Tinder have changed the game, making it easier and at the same time harder to meet women.

Nowadays, if you want to find the girl of your dreams, you have to up your game, and the first thing you need to know is what are the best places to meet women. And that's what we're going to cover below.

Here's a guide on where to meet girls.

Bars and Clubs

Okay, let's start with the obvious spots for meeting women: bars, clubs, and other similar places, like coffee shops. These spots are where all romantic comedies or sitcoms heroes meet their future partners and the places that probably come to your mind first when someone mentions dating.

And to be fair, there are plenty of reasons for that. When it comes to meeting girls at clubs and bars, you're spoilt for choice. After all, they're the center of every city's social life. What's more, when you're in a bar, you can quickly get straight to the point by offering a girl you like a drink or asking her for a dance.

There's one problem, though. The number of single women in bars and clubs isn't as high as most movies show. And even if there are some girls, they're usually in a pack. And in every girls' group, there has to be a chaperone that defends her friends from men.

Still, despite these cons, clubs and bars are perfect places for starting your dating adventure, especially if you're looking for a hookup and not a long and quality relationship.

Online Dating Sites

Online dating sites have turned the dating world upside down. But even though they've been around for some time, their popularity skyrocketed when Tinder began its reign. Since then, nothing has been the same.

Thanks to apps like Tinder, you're able to swipe through millions of users with just one move of your finger. All you need to do is set up an account and wait for a match. And thanks to apps like Bumble, women also make the first move.

Using online dating apps is a fantastic way to meet women. It has some cons, though. First of all, they're full of fake accounts, so you have to be careful while swiping. Secondly, most of them are all about appearance, and it usually takes some time until you get to know the other person.

There are a few sites and apps that stand out:

AFF (if you're just looking for hookups)

If you don’t feel like you’re ready for that scene just yet, it’s a new world out there and there’s nothing wrong with online dating. If you’re looking for a hookup, AFF should be your go-to. There are so many fake dating websites out there and AFF is one of the biggest, safest names in the industry. Set yourself up a profile, state what it is you’re looking for and take it from there.

The reason I personally prefer this site is that it’s all about finding hookups. While you can use dating apps for that, there’s an added layer of difficulty in there if that’s all you’re looking for. Finding a classy, positive way to say “I just want to hook up” isn’t the easiest way to get started. Instead, you can search their 60 million+ users with very specific filters. Age, location, kink, cup size. . . find exactly what you’re looking for and go for it.

In case you're worried that AFF is like Tinder, it's definitely not. AFF users don't just take one look at your profile and decide which way to swipe. Instead, users find each other through the search function, the very active forums and the comments section of blogs and other posts. So it functions as both a hookup site and a community. And you can bet you'll meet so many girls on AFF!

eHarmony is great for a long-term relationship

If you’re looking for a relationship rather than a hookup, eHarmony is the biggest name in this niche. Because their goal is to set up new relationships, they use a complex algorithm to match you with compatible people. You will have to spend much longer setting up a profile but for a reason. Rather than just swiping left or right to match with people, it’s about who each of you are and what you’re looking for.

Through their long list of questions, they can infer a lot about who you are and match you with suitable candidates. The site then sends you a handful of matches per day. That's better than being bombarded by hundreds of users and filtering out who you think you'll be compatible with. This specialized matching system also helps you stand out more. After all, if a girl receives you as her match, she'll already know you at least have a few things in common.

According to eHarmony, 69% of guys and 71% of girls meet their spouse on eHarmony within a year. Think of it like quality over quantity. In fact, the other mind-blowing stat they share is that 75% of marriages that begin online start with eHarmony!

So before you think online dating won't help you find a girlfriend, try out eHarmony first!

If you’re looking to better your dating life and if you already have a strong network of social circles, you don’t really have to go out meeting women off the streets or the clubs.

You can participate in University activities, use networking sites such as Eventbrite or Meet up, join interest groups or take part in after-work drinks. Earlier when I was in full-time University, I barely bothered with meeting girls through the cold approach method. That’s because there were many social opportunities around me there was no need for me to reach out to the cold market.

The majority of males use the warm market, aka his social circle for dating opportunities.

Social circles are mostly made up of old friends, colleagues, or school friends. Cultivating great social circles is a good strategy for anyone who's patient enough to cultivate and upkeep these social relationships. I personally know of guys who are naturally great a keeping and maintaining different social circles with groups of guys and girls.

If you hit off with a stranger and assume you're someone who got things going for yourself, then just simply ask them if they can join them for that event.

You can simply just say: I'm completely new here, can I join you guys?

To get invited to private parties, events, all you got to do is to just ask. However, before you ask, you can't be a dickhead. This means having an ability to make others feel comfortable and appreciated around you.

If you're looking to start or keep your own social circle, start organising or start joining people for hang out sessions. You can also be the leader of your own social circle. Instead of joining and fitting into other people's social circles? Why not create your own, with the current people you have in your life?

I made this mistake when starting out. I merely put myself in other people's social circles. I resisted the idea of 'bossing others around' initially I disliked the idea that I might be controlling others. However, as I got better at social skills, it's hard not to take note that you're the one that people subtlety look to make decisions, I naturally become more of a social leader.

You can be the one to organize, plan and execute events. This can be your core group of friends that you hang out with on a weekly basis at the bar.

You can start inviting girls and her friends you approach (that aren't romantically available to join you for your event):

'Hey, you're really nice to talk to, let's keep in touch, my friends and I are having drinks this weekend, why don't you come and join us?'

The downside of relying on social circles is that they tend to be extremely limited to the people in the group.

Colleges

College is THE PLACE to be social, meet new women and it's one of the last times in one's life that you're put in an environment where there's an endless supply of dating opportunities. In hindsight, I regretted not fully taking advantage of my first year in University.

You may choose to ignore your social life and focus on your grades up in University. That might work for you for your grades, however, that's not going to do much for you for your dating life.

There are many that put a lot of weight on academic success and forget that University is one of the last periods of one's life where you get to meet A TON of people in one environment. I'm also surprised that many of these students don't leverage their University platforms to expand their dating pool.

There’s research that our relationships contribute to a huge percentage of our happiness. So yes, loosen up and make new connections. Stop being too cool for school. Joining a co-curricular activity in University is one of the best outlets to expand your dating opportunities, you can join a co-curricular activity that you're interested in.

Parks

Other popular locations where you can meet women are parks. Take a walk, sit on the bench and read a book, or go for a run, and if you spot a girl you think you might like, don't hesitate to approach and make conversation.

Sounds simple, right? Well, what makes it challenging is not making the whole situation look awkward. Although the park is a great place to meet girls, you can easily ruin your efforts by looking like a creep. To avoid that, make the conversation sound natural and not forced.

Also, a little word of advice; don't approach a woman with a stupid smile on your face. Act natural, and don't be too pushy.

But do you know what the best way to pick up a girl while in the park is? Walking with your dog (if you have one). Dogs are key to any woman's heart. And if no girl approaches you, well, at least you'll spend some quality time with your best friend.